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To Deprive Myself is Out of the Question

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Recovery, Spiritual Matters

These blogs are part of a video series I produced earlier this year. From Free Video-Blog series, to E-book and now to Blogs, I wanted to provide as much access as possible to these words of wisdom. Why? Because, I’m all about the fulfillment of the Human-Spirit…Everyone’s Human Spirit!                   So, here we go!

The most frequently used statement of anyone wanting to change their way of being in the world: “I Don’t Want to Deprive Myself!” Okay!Diet-Like-a-Guru-Cover for Amazon

#1 Rule of Diet Like a Guru is: You need not deprive yourself of ANYTHING!

So, with that said, you are now free to choose whatever it is you want. You can have as much as you want of whatever you want! You have the power and freedom to choose! YES!!!!

Now for the biggest conundrum you will face as you take on the practice of dieting like a guru: Either you are depriving yourself of your substances of choice, or you are depriving yourself of the health and vitality you want to experience in your life. It is a dilemma, and how we be with our dilemmas will help us move relatively gracefully towards our desired outcome.

Wait-I just told you that you didn’t have to deprive yourself of anything, right? What gives?

I have two questions for you that will be foundational to how you proceed through this practice: “What is it that you want? And, what is it that you want – enough – that you are willing to experiment with how you be with the dilemmas and conundrums facing you. How will you adventure into possibility?” okay, that’s 3 questions!

When I ask my clients these questions, they often say: “I want to be healthy; I want to lose weight; I want to bring more exercise into my life; I want to be a model of healthy living for my children; I want to be happy and fulfilled. AND… I want to continue to indulge my impulses- not deprive myself of anything.” Excellent!

Who’s Running My Business? I Don’t Want to Think About it!

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Presentations

Bald businessman wearing glasses with hand on chin making funny face against gray backgroundI’m facilitating a workshop this coming August in Brainerd, Minnesota, called Who’s Running My Business. Sounds like fun, right?

The intention of this workshop is for you – the participant to recognize that what you think isn’t as important as how you think. Huh? I bet you kind of feel like the guy in this photo!

Any business coach, or life coach, worth their weight in salt will focus your coaching sessions on how you make the choices you make – as I like to put it – how you choose to choose what you choose. Again, with the confusion? Of course!

I’ve been teaching, coaching and training people for decades around this topic, and it still rattles my brain to be asking such questions. However to get this one specific principle of good business practices, you will be much better prepared to face every day of decision-making, professionally and personally.

Deep Recovery

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness

Transformation as an Absolute for Addicts and Mental Health Sufferers

A paradigm shift is occurring in the field of recovery. Staying clean and sober – regardless of the addiction, can now be recognized as the initial stage of personal transformation. This is not just hype – this is an absolute!

By shifting our context of recovery from coping with and managing our addictions, to uncovering and healing the deepest source of our addictions, we not only become more self-realized, but we allow self-actualizing to be at the forefront of our intentions.

It is clear in Dr. Rosie Kuhn’s eyes that, each and every one of us is living with multiple addictions, not only in the form of substance abuse or addictive behaviors, but in the form of emotional and mental patternings, which quite often generate the restless, irritable, discontent that fuels addictions.

The myriad of strategies that we’ve developed to ignore, deny, avoid, and distract ourselves from feeling restless, irritable, discontent, have yet to be acknowledged as addictions in and of themselves. We are so addicted to specific patterns of thinking and feeling, in service to avoiding restless, irritable, discontent, that we don’t see these as addictions as well. Knowing this, we can begin to uncover that which is the original source of our addiction. This is very good news for addicts, sufferers of mental health, and all of us who support and empower people to grow into their fullest potential.

This is the first in a series of 4 workshops on Deep Recovery. The recovery field is ready for this next chapter of the recovery process.

Join Dr. Rosie Kuhn for a 2 day introduction to Deep Recovery. Participants will gain information and realizations regarding highly effective strategies for working with addictions and many mental health afflictions.

Dr. Rosie Kuhn, a thought-leader in the fields of transformational coaching and in recovery, has worked in the field of recovery for over 30 years. Initially Dr. Rosie worked as a therapist in Canada, for the Province of Nova Scotia Addiction Services, previously known as the Nova Scotia Commission on Drug Dependency. Now as a transformational coach, Dr. Rosie works with many clients who are at various stages of recovery. Her books – including Cultivating Spirituality in Children, and Self-Empowerment 101, support readers to acknowledge their relationship with those addictions, habits, and patternings, which limit their capacity to fulfill their human spirit.

This workshop is for everyone working in the fields of mental health and addiction recovery. This includes the people in the process of recovering, sponsors, counselors, addiction coaches and therapists. You will gain insight and tools for supporting and empowering people to empower themselves to fully experience and express their essential nature.

Date and Time: Aug. 13-14, 2016. Registration begins at 8am. Workshop goes from 9-4:00pm

Location: Brainerd, Minnesota

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Fees: $250.00 Early Bird until July 1st.

$275.00 After July 1st

For more information regarding lodging, and to register, contact Jane Brekken. To contact Dr. Rosie Kuhn call 360-376-4323, or email her at rosie@theparadigmshifts.com

Happiness is an Inside Job

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Spiritual Matters

My client, Richard, is dying of lung cancer. He has been a wealthy and successful brain surgeon: seems like Richard should be a happy guy too, right? The truth is, for most of Richard’s life, he was an unhappy alcoholic. Now, in his late 60’s, he is retired, sober and has just a few years left to live a happy life. Sitting in the middle of a crowded and noisy coffee shop, Richard asked me: “Rosie, how do I find happiness?” 

I said: “Close your eyes, Richard, and think a happy thought.” Within 2 seconds, a radiant smile came across his face. He opened his eye, which were now sparkling with delight. “Wow. That was easy!”

Meg is depressed, frustrated, and resists even trying to be happy. She sees happiness as overrated, because rarely does she see people happy, so why bother? 

Meg has a BIG attachment to what happiness is supposed to be like, and it isn’t happening for her or for most of the people she observes. However, the more attachments Meg has to how it’s supposed to be, the less likely she’ll be happy. 

I asked her: “Meg, what needs to shift so that you may have more access to happiness?” Meg was quiet for awhile. She looked angry, crossed her arms, closed her eyes and started to cry. “I’m so afraid to let myself even hope that I can feel happy. I’m resisting any possibility, because I don’t want to feel more disappointment. I can see that I’d have to shift where I focus my attention – away from negative experiences. I’d have to train myself to focus on positive experiences. I’d have to shift my attention and the way I look at things, so my life is more positive.” Meg smiled.

Declaring Your Place in the World: Check These Off Your To-Do List

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Children, Coaching, Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Young, Daring and Unstoppable!
In the late 60’s, the summer of my Junior year of high school, my sweetheart, Paul, and I took on a project of creating awareness in our small Island community in Michigan, of the importance of environmental support. Using an electric typewriter and the manual cranking mimeograph machine at the local library, we made over 1,000 pamphlets, listing the many ways to help the Islanders become aware of how we could save the planet: recycle, reuse, population control, small volume toilets, etc. I rode my bike around the Island carefully placing our answers to world devastation in every household’s mailbox. Sometimes we used Paul’s car too.

The only reason we took on this endeavor was because we were passionate about saving the planet. There was no doubt that we would achiever our goal. And achieve it we did.

Its funny to think about this, so many decades ago, and see that the intrepid spirit never disappeared in Paul or in myself. Passion and conviction to make a difference in the world still lies within both of us. Our desire to make a difference in the world has taken different turns, as they are want to do, but those young world-savers are still in action!

My scariest mission, probably since I crossed the Atlantic Ocean in the early 90’s, is at hand. Creating this Kickstarter Project: Cultivating Spirituality in Children, with the intention to raise awareness of the importance of the spiritual lives of children, and inspiring individuals to join me in this endeavor, seems really daunting to me; so much so that has stopped me for years from fully engaging, fully and passionately getting my feet and my fingers moving in the right direction.

I Am Just Like My Clients
I struggle with many of the challenges my clients struggle with. And, like them, I have to dig down deep within to get to what’s stopping me from doing whatever it takes to create the content, the video, the rewards, and most importantly, the compellingness to go “LIVE ” with the project.

It’s not time management, or knowing those backers who would bring this project to its goal: It’s taken grueling work on my part to really ready myself to take into account those details that plaque every one of my clients to one degree or another.

One detail at a time, I began to check off my list every item that would inevitably lead to going public with the project. I discovered 5 specific items that, if not attended to, would mean my mission would be aborted. It’s not uncommon for many of us, who wish to succeed in the world, to overcome obstacles within the context of Self. I offer this list to you.

 
1) I lack nothing, therefore I need nothing:

I’ve spent much of my life living as if I lacked worth, deservingness, competence, value, resources, and loveability, just to name a few. The completion of this project – to finish the book, Cultivating Spirituality in Children, and to start the Kickstarter Project required that I’m absolutely clear that I lack nothing. This project isn’t intended to fund me; it is intended to fund the project of cultivating awareness in all grownups of the importance of children’s spirituality.

By seeing myself as lacking anything, I fear I’ll be found out as lacking.

 
2) I’m Undeserving of Support:

I learned early in life that it is imperative to be self-reliant and self-sufficient. Entrepreneurship builds capacities to do whatever it take to get the job done. However, if self-reliance is built upon a foundation of unworthiness and undeservingness, my ability to truly do my work in the world is limited.

Over the years I’ve had to get down and dirty with myself, to find peace with my past, so I can carry on in the present in my highest potential; otherwise, my ability to fulfill my purpose will be stalled.

Living from lack and unworthiness will never allow anyone to create a life that truly makes its highest contribution to life. So, letting go of the interpretations of undeserving and unworthy, had to be checked off my list.

 
3) Lie, Cheat, and Steal:

Perhaps is was a past life, or the religious upbringing in this life that had me decide that I’m a very dishonest person. I found within my ballywick of limiting interpretations this one: People will find out or decide that I am conning and manipulating people out of their money, and that I, in fact am despicable.

To check this detail off my list I had to look at the clear evidence of this belief. I see that out of fear, I have lied, manipulated, and conned people into see me as lovable, worthy and deserving. Now, I don’t have to do that anymore, because I know myself to be those things. I’ve come to honor they lives I’ve lived, the lessons that have been learned and the positive value I now bring to the world. I’ve had to let go of this old and useless way of viewing myself.

 
4) I have to Prove Myself to You:

We always make something out of nothing. What I mean is that, each of us creates, in our own minds, what is significant and meaningful, and what is not. To begin a kickstarter project, I had to sit with not only the worthiness issue, but also the idea that this will prove to the world that “I’ve Made It,” if I meet my goal. If I don’t meet my goal, well, that will mean that “I Haven’t Made It.”

The need for anyone of us to prove ourselves is connected to the fear that –  I lack something, and I may be undeserving of support –  #1 and #2 of this checkoff list.

I can feel it in my bones when I’m wanting or needing to prove something, anything. Without the need to prove anything to anyone, and just create this project because it is what is calling me, I can let go of the fears and just create from inspiration, passion and compellingness. Then its more fun and a lot less scary. I’m not trying to get something, so I have nothing to lose! The fulfillment comes with the fulfillment of participating in this project to its completion.

 

5) I’m Beholding to All Who Help Me:

Seeing myself as someone who is lacking, undeserving, a cheat, and of course, being responsible to those who have helped me, would be part of this equation that adds up to: no follow through and no fulfillment of my intention. I don’t know about you, but this is absolutely true for me.
Remembering my commitment to empowering all people to empower themselves to fulfill their human spirit, in order to ensure every child’s spirit to soar, empowers me to shift my internal paradigm from getting – which is fear-based, into my greatest capacity to extend myself in the world.

I want for my children and grandchildren to allow their spirits to soar. I want them to live in the unlimited potentiality of their being, more effortlessly than me. Cultivating Spirituality in Children – the book, and the Kickstarter Project are dedicated to this cause – for all children everywhere. Join me. For fun, check out the video. I think its quite wonderful!

I May Have to Get a Job

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Its easy to judge and assess success and failure based on a context that limits perception of potentiality and possibility. It takes daring to keep your eyes wide open when you take that step into what seems to be the leap! There is so much to see!

I may need to get a job to meet some pressing financial commitments.
Initially, I see this as a failure on my part – that in this spiritual immersion work, I must have avoided or ignored some important step on this journey. Without knowing, perhaps that I took a detour, which has left me stranded on the ocean without a paddle. Somehow, I must have done something wrong.

Domains of Awareness

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Spiritual Matters

Through teaching and coaching, this model of awareness organically emerged, and it is foundational to a whole-being perspective of self-empowerment; and, I believe, to this adventure of spiritual immersion and self-discovery. If we do not attend to all domains of our being, we limit the full potentiality of the expression of our essential nature. Moreover, I believe we are here to be the fullest expression of our essential self. This, to me, is the destination toward which we are heading.

Through realizing how we “be” in all domains of awareness, we cultivate an awakening and responsiveness to the multidimensional nature of our being. It gives us not just a bird’s eye view but perhaps an angel’s eye view of the reality within which we are immersed. It allows us to see that our choice-making process includes so much more than meets our everyday seeing eyes.

As you incrementally engage one step at a time into this adventure of self-discovery through the process of immersion, you’ll see how each domain is operating concurrently with the others: there is no separation between the reality I see, the strategies I put into place, the qualities of my humanness, and the Universal consciousness that I am. This process distinguishes each domain, just like in a biology class where we dissect an onion into transparent layers; as it provides us with opportunities to differentiate what occurs in each Domain, and how each influences and supports wholeness for us in our own unique way.

Understanding the model, Domains of Awareness, will bring clarity to your process. It distinguishes reality, or circumstances, as they appear in our everyday living (Domain of Circumstance), from the way we choose to act, think, and be, regarding our circumstance (Domain of Self-Empowerment). It distinguishes our choice-making from the qualities of humanness (Domain of Humanity) that has us feel inadequate, unworthy, unlovable, and open, wonder, loving, creative and so much more. These are distinguished from the qualities of our being that knows without question that we are Oneness, Creation, Universal Source of All That Is (Domain of Oneness). Witnessing yourself as all of this, all at the same time, allows you to bring attention to any one domain, so as to bring clarity of intention and choice-making to whatever you are wanting.

Through cultivating awareness and practicing conscious choice-making, you will understand how you choose to choose what you choose. This knowledge, alone will empower you to discern your highest truth and the actions required to fulfill your quest. It’s up to you to choose how far down the rabbit hole you are willing to go, and the degree to which you are willing to manifest your fullest expression of your essential nature.

5 Easy Steps to Shift from Self-Ignoring to Self-Love

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Spiritual Matters

IMG_0130I tell you, truthfully, that if all of us self-help enthusiasts would put into practice all the beautiful, inspirational advice we see on Twitter, in books and blogs, we’d put therapists, psychologist, and a lot of medical doctors out of business. I believe it’s possible that we are beginning to outsmart most mental health professionals. And as we do that, our physical well-being increase and dis-ease decreases. The dilemma is that as much as we want to have sweeter and easier lives, we are afraid of change. And, as much as we know, we aren’t using our intelligence much at all. So we hire others who support us in these struggles and challenges. This is a good thing!

I have no doubt that all of us will get tired of the fear-based platform of our choosing to choose what we choose. Sooner or later each of us will take those incrementally small steps towards the life we say we want.

So, in service to this one small, incremental step towards fulfillment of our human spirit, I began practicing a very simple exercise. Maybe you’ll try it too. And, yes. It is easy. Well, most of it!

How did I ever get along without a … 4 people you can’t live without as a Successful Self-employed Person

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Being in Business, Coaching

Remember, for some of us, when we couldn’t imagine why anyone would need a microwave oven, an email address, laptop computer or a smart phone. Now, we can’t imagine living without them.

As a person in business for myself, I’ve attempted for years to do things by myself, because I believed I couldn’t afford to hire people to do it for me. Now, I can’t afford not to hire people to do it for me.

You probably think that I now have money that I didn’t have before, and that’s how I can dreamstime_xs_34604665afford to hire support. That’s not it at all. Its more of a shift in priorities, commitments and desired outcome: If I want people to buy my books, hire me as a coach, or bring me to their events as a key-note speaker, I have to really be dedicated to making that happen in order to really make it happen. When my dedication and commitment is truly in line with my desired outcome, Bazinga! – the money appears.

Here are the 4 people who make a huge difference in my success: