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Boy, Do We LOVE to HATE!

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Spiritual Matters

While reading A Course in Miracles, I came across the concept “the special Hate relationship.” Wow! 

Do you know that approximately 70-80% of any given population hate their jobs? As I googled what we hate or dislike there are a lot of very unhappy people who hate or dislike well, everything. And, I love this statistic: 70% of our thoughts are negative thoughts. That is a lot of negativity – a proportion I suspect is hateful in nature.

I know I’ve done a lot of hating over my life. I was actually in DENIAL hotdog(Didn’t Even Know I Am Lying) about the degree to which I have a special relationship with hate. After all, it isn’t ladylike to hate; it isn’t spiritual to hate; it isn’t American to hate, except for when it is!

Creating Heaven on Earth

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Recovery, Spiritual Matters

Given all the reading and the phenomenal conversations I’ve had with individuals who have experienced near death experiences (NDE’s), and other spiritually transformative experiences (STE’s), I have no doubt that if I died today I would be immediately embraced by loving beings on the other side.Zemanta Related Posts Thumbnail I would experience uncompromising love, kindness and compassion. Immediately I would feel absolved of all my sins, mistakes and errors. The shame and guilt I thought were mine to bear for eternity evaporate into the light. I would be free.

In this Heaven, there is no wanting, no needing, no hurt, no fear or anger; no poverty, no illness or dis-ease. There is no need to hope or wish, nor is there a need to trust or believe, because all is present as knowing in the presence of what is.

If I know that I will experience this when I get to heaven, if I know that I am already worthy of experiencing this in Heaven, if I know that I am loved and cared for beyond measure in Heaven, then what keeps me from experiencing this Heaven on Earth?

The truth is, at least the way I see it, is that Heaven is already available on Earth, in a blink of an eye. Our consensus reality – the one we are immersed in, has trained us to believe that we are unworthy of Heaven, and only through penance, punishment, sacrifice and servitude will any of us be able to enter the Gates of Heaven.

The truth is, at least the way I see it, is that we have to empower ourselves to see that, no matter how much penance, punishment, sacrifice and servitude you endure – it changes nothing. In my coaching practice, I have met very few people who actually believe they have suffered enough, and have forgiven themselves completely for their past discretions. From consensus view of reality, you are never enough, and it – your penance, punishment, sacrifice and servitude, is never enough. This is an insane and sad way to live life, wouldn’t you say?

What I’ve learned earlier in my life, from people and from the majority of the religious teachings I was forced to swallow, is what has kept me from living as if I’m already in Heaven. The unbearable burden of shame, guilt and unworthiness had me inevitable turn my back on religion and spirituality, for a very long time, until I found sources of truth that resonated with my heart, and rejuvenated my spirit. I decide that I wanted to live in my highest potential and would do whatever it took to experience this – whatever this was/is. I know this highest potential now to be experiencing Heaven on Earth. 

A Course in Miracles, Oneness, and all of the writings of David Hawkins, and other spiritual teachers say clearly that it is our birthright, our inheritance, to know ourselves already in Heaven. 

It takes a lot of training to reverse all the teaching, memories, and fear-based beliefs, which keep us locked in an insane world. The keys to our prisons are inches away. All it takes is the desire to experience Heaven on Earth, not for just moments at a time, but every moment of every day.

I Have a Knowing that We Can Experience Heaven on Earth. 

All that is in the way of experiencing Heaven on Earth, by me or by any of us are our limiting beliefs and energetic patternings, which act as impenetrable barriers. The Gates to Heaven are closed and sealed shut, not by God, but by my own making, by our own making, by our own choice-making, and only because we continaully empower ourselves to continually choose to ignore, deny and avoid the Heaven that is here, now.

Only through self-empowerment can any one of us begin to choose differently in order to experience Heaven on Earth. Only through self-empowerment can any one individual become accountable for maintaining the patterns and beliefs currently in place, which keep us blind to the ever present Loving Kindness. Only through self-empowerment can any one of us choose differently, in alignment with our highest truths and principles, our highest values, and in alignment with making our highest contribution through our lives. And, lastly, only through self-empowerment can we exonerate ourselves from all of our sins, mistakes and errors, forgive ourselves completely, and surrender the belief that penance and punishment, sacrifice and servitude will get us through the Pearly Gates.

I have no doubt, today, that I am already everything I need to be, in order to live in the abundance of Heaven. And, I have no doubt that you are already everything you need to be, in order to live in the abundance of Heaven. Giving up every thought and memory that contradicts this truth, is all there is to do to truly experience Heaven on Earth. Easy right!

I’d love to support you in doing whatever it takes to experience Heaven on Earth.  Email me, and we can set up a time to discuss ways to empower yourself to experience the Grace of being you.

Diet Like a Guru: What is the Truth

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Spiritual Matters

All of us have within us a wise inner-guru, who is available to us 24-7. Our inner-guru answers every question we ask with absolute truth, because that’s what it is there to do, so we can live in our fullest potentiality – the most expansive life possible.

I don’t know about you, but I am not always ready to listen to that truth and to the wisdom that often piggybacks on that truth. And, so, I forget that my inner-guru is there, and I answer my question for myself with the same old relentless patterns that don’t ever work (I rarely feel the wiser by answering my own questions by myself). So, with that said, I’m going to jump into the subject of the day:

Diet and the idea of diet is an imposed set of beliefs and interpretations that come to us by way of culture, ethnicity, family traditions, and religions: they each influence what to eat, how to eat, and when to eat.

Quite often it is through imposed acculturationDiet-Like-a-Guru-Cover for Amazon that we also learn how to use foods, and other substances, to help us cope with what reality has to throw at us. Because we are immersed and enmeshed in our cultures, our responses to food and to emotions, for that matter, become automatic: An impulse arises, and we train ourselves to feed the impulse unconsciously.

We are taught and trained by our cultures and families to ignore our truths, our suffering, and the many injustices we live with, so that the cultural ways stay intact (even when it doesn’t make sense to do so.). We feel powerless to do anything but ignore and numb our pain. For many of us this is required in order to maintain enough sanity to get from one day to another. I know this, not only through my own personal experience, but through my clients’ sharing of what it was like to live as if the best they could expect was to hope for a better tomorrow.

We have an interesting relationship with reality: When something is experienced as hurtful, or disappointing, few of us have the opportunity to say clearly, directly and out loud: “OUCH!” We aren’t allowed to express the truth of our experience. So, with our infinite wisdom, in service to survival, we learn how to mask, avoid, and ignore the sensations of hurt.

When we use food, or any substance or activity that numbs or masks our pain, we avoid the truth of our own suffering, while ensuring our survival, and the survival of our culture.

When we become conscious of these various impulses, how we’ve trained ourselves to eat and how to deal with emotions, we are then at choice to choose another way. We are free to discover a way that allows us to freely express ourselves in the world. I believe that this is what we came here to experience – the fulfillment of our Human-Spirit!

I realize thus far, through my own journey to well-being that, so much of our reality doesn’t make sense. In fact, it is filled with insanities. Each of us is doing the very best we can do with the tools and trainings passed down through generations, to survive the circumstances of our lives. For some, the insanity is too great – betrayal, violence, and abuse in all its disguises has some of us just give up, as it is often too much for our human heart to bear.

The majority of us survive. And, while many of us long for living in wholeness, peace and happiness, few of us willingly take the path to make that happen.

Those of you who are reading this, in this moment, are willingly taking the path. You are hearing the wise inner-guru tell you that it’s time; that the consequences of your current choices do not support you in experiencing the fullest expression of your essential nature; and that you have the strength and courage to hear the truth and to experiment with doing somethings differently.

To diet like a guru, we practice with very small implementations, with no dramatic results expected, good, bad, or otherwise – just to see what is possible. We exercise, stretch and strengthen muscles of listening, speaking, and experiencing our truth. We become curious and daring enough to ask questions of our inner-guru, and hear the answers we know to be our highest truths.

Just for today, listen for your truth. You might want to journal or talk with someone about these truths – a coach, a therapist, a sponsor, or minister. If you feel safe, speak your truth out loud, even if it’s not the truth you want to admit to others or to yourself.

When we listen for the truth, and begin to speak our truth, even when it’s not what we want to hear or to say, we begin to cultivate something exceptionally important: an authentic relationship with ourselves. When we cultivate and strengthen this authentic relationship with ourselves, we nourish self-respect, self-honor, self-appreciation, and dignity. Just small incremental shifts in this direction will allow you the ability to choose to shift what has forever felt like an imposed way of being with food, drink, and other substances.

There comes a point in every person’s life when the suffering is too great, and all that is left to do is to speak the truth: “I am human. I am in pain. I am ready to live another way. Empower me to choose differently.”

Dilemmas of a Small Business Guru

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Being in Business, Coaching, Humaness

Yes – You! You are a Small Business Guru. Well, maybe not yet, but you are certainly on the path!

Every successful business and every single business guru starts out having one idea that inspires them to do one thing to grow their idea into something more. The idea is a catalyst, which ignites a spark of inspiration – “Maybe I can turn my idea into something valuable -something people would pay money for.”Guru Image

Perhaps inspiration compels them to begin online searches into starting a small business; maybe they share their idea with trustworthy individual; maybe they call a financial institutions regarding loans, financing, grants and investors, their parents, or someone else they knew who believe in them, and would hopefully just say the words: “You can do this!” Or, maybe this is all too much, and the couch, a bag of chips and a good movie calls!

Minds begin to churn out ideas, possibilities, potentials, as well as problems, practicality, and dilemmas. What if’s, to what’s impossible; from “this is going to be a huge success!” To: “There Ain’t No Way I can make a success of myself or my dreams.”

Already, you are most likely in the midst of a myriad of dilemmas. How you be a Small Business Guru depends on how you perceive yourself: Do you trust that you can trust yourself with successes and failures? This is a huge question – one that you may find yourself distracting yourself from. You either take the leap, or you wait until sometime down the road when you think it might be more possible. Even this is a dilemma – a choice-point. “To start, or not to start – that is the question.”

And, with this comes the questions: What? When? Who? Where? And, How? Basements, garages, spare bedrooms; part time, spare time, full time; profit, non-profit, no profit; sole-proprietor, partnership; employees, contracting out, and the list goes on!

I know that if you are reading these words, you are already considering how to do what to do, solely by you!

To Deprive Myself is Out of the Question

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Recovery, Spiritual Matters

These blogs are part of a video series I produced earlier this year. From Free Video-Blog series, to E-book and now to Blogs, I wanted to provide as much access as possible to these words of wisdom. Why? Because, I’m all about the fulfillment of the Human-Spirit…Everyone’s Human Spirit!                   So, here we go!

The most frequently used statement of anyone wanting to change their way of being in the world: “I Don’t Want to Deprive Myself!” Okay!Diet-Like-a-Guru-Cover for Amazon

#1 Rule of Diet Like a Guru is: You need not deprive yourself of ANYTHING!

So, with that said, you are now free to choose whatever it is you want. You can have as much as you want of whatever you want! You have the power and freedom to choose! YES!!!!

Now for the biggest conundrum you will face as you take on the practice of dieting like a guru: Either you are depriving yourself of your substances of choice, or you are depriving yourself of the health and vitality you want to experience in your life. It is a dilemma, and how we be with our dilemmas will help us move relatively gracefully towards our desired outcome.

Wait-I just told you that you didn’t have to deprive yourself of anything, right? What gives?

I have two questions for you that will be foundational to how you proceed through this practice: “What is it that you want? And, what is it that you want – enough – that you are willing to experiment with how you be with the dilemmas and conundrums facing you. How will you adventure into possibility?” okay, that’s 3 questions!

When I ask my clients these questions, they often say: “I want to be healthy; I want to lose weight; I want to bring more exercise into my life; I want to be a model of healthy living for my children; I want to be happy and fulfilled. AND… I want to continue to indulge my impulses- not deprive myself of anything.” Excellent!

Who’s Running My Business? I Don’t Want to Think About it!

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Presentations

Bald businessman wearing glasses with hand on chin making funny face against gray backgroundI’m facilitating a workshop this coming August in Brainerd, Minnesota, called Who’s Running My Business. Sounds like fun, right?

The intention of this workshop is for you – the participant to recognize that what you think isn’t as important as how you think. Huh? I bet you kind of feel like the guy in this photo!

Any business coach, or life coach, worth their weight in salt will focus your coaching sessions on how you make the choices you make – as I like to put it – how you choose to choose what you choose. Again, with the confusion? Of course!

I’ve been teaching, coaching and training people for decades around this topic, and it still rattles my brain to be asking such questions. However to get this one specific principle of good business practices, you will be much better prepared to face every day of decision-making, professionally and personally.

Deep Recovery

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness

Transformation as an Absolute for Addicts and Mental Health Sufferers

A paradigm shift is occurring in the field of recovery. Staying clean and sober – regardless of the addiction, can now be recognized as the initial stage of personal transformation. This is not just hype – this is an absolute!

By shifting our context of recovery from coping with and managing our addictions, to uncovering and healing the deepest source of our addictions, we not only become more self-realized, but we allow self-actualizing to be at the forefront of our intentions.

It is clear in Dr. Rosie Kuhn’s eyes that, each and every one of us is living with multiple addictions, not only in the form of substance abuse or addictive behaviors, but in the form of emotional and mental patternings, which quite often generate the restless, irritable, discontent that fuels addictions.

The myriad of strategies that we’ve developed to ignore, deny, avoid, and distract ourselves from feeling restless, irritable, discontent, have yet to be acknowledged as addictions in and of themselves. We are so addicted to specific patterns of thinking and feeling, in service to avoiding restless, irritable, discontent, that we don’t see these as addictions as well. Knowing this, we can begin to uncover that which is the original source of our addiction. This is very good news for addicts, sufferers of mental health, and all of us who support and empower people to grow into their fullest potential.

This is the first in a series of 4 workshops on Deep Recovery. The recovery field is ready for this next chapter of the recovery process.

Join Dr. Rosie Kuhn for a 2 day introduction to Deep Recovery. Participants will gain information and realizations regarding highly effective strategies for working with addictions and many mental health afflictions.

Dr. Rosie Kuhn, a thought-leader in the fields of transformational coaching and in recovery, has worked in the field of recovery for over 30 years. Initially Dr. Rosie worked as a therapist in Canada, for the Province of Nova Scotia Addiction Services, previously known as the Nova Scotia Commission on Drug Dependency. Now as a transformational coach, Dr. Rosie works with many clients who are at various stages of recovery. Her books – including Cultivating Spirituality in Children, and Self-Empowerment 101, support readers to acknowledge their relationship with those addictions, habits, and patternings, which limit their capacity to fulfill their human spirit.

This workshop is for everyone working in the fields of mental health and addiction recovery. This includes the people in the process of recovering, sponsors, counselors, addiction coaches and therapists. You will gain insight and tools for supporting and empowering people to empower themselves to fully experience and express their essential nature.

Date and Time: Aug. 13-14, 2016. Registration begins at 8am. Workshop goes from 9-4:00pm

Location: Brainerd, Minnesota

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Fees: $250.00 Early Bird until July 1st.

$275.00 After July 1st

For more information regarding lodging, and to register, contact Jane Brekken. To contact Dr. Rosie Kuhn call 360-376-4323, or email her at rosie@theparadigmshifts.com

Happiness is an Inside Job

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Spiritual Matters

My client, Richard, is dying of lung cancer. He has been a wealthy and successful brain surgeon: seems like Richard should be a happy guy too, right? The truth is, for most of Richard’s life, he was an unhappy alcoholic. Now, in his late 60’s, he is retired, sober and has just a few years left to live a happy life. Sitting in the middle of a crowded and noisy coffee shop, Richard asked me: “Rosie, how do I find happiness?” 

I said: “Close your eyes, Richard, and think a happy thought.” Within 2 seconds, a radiant smile came across his face. He opened his eye, which were now sparkling with delight. “Wow. That was easy!”

Meg is depressed, frustrated, and resists even trying to be happy. She sees happiness as overrated, because rarely does she see people happy, so why bother? 

Meg has a BIG attachment to what happiness is supposed to be like, and it isn’t happening for her or for most of the people she observes. However, the more attachments Meg has to how it’s supposed to be, the less likely she’ll be happy. 

I asked her: “Meg, what needs to shift so that you may have more access to happiness?” Meg was quiet for awhile. She looked angry, crossed her arms, closed her eyes and started to cry. “I’m so afraid to let myself even hope that I can feel happy. I’m resisting any possibility, because I don’t want to feel more disappointment. I can see that I’d have to shift where I focus my attention – away from negative experiences. I’d have to train myself to focus on positive experiences. I’d have to shift my attention and the way I look at things, so my life is more positive.” Meg smiled.

Declaring Your Place in the World: Check These Off Your To-Do List

Written by Rosie on . Posted in Children, Coaching, Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Young, Daring and Unstoppable!
In the late 60’s, the summer of my Junior year of high school, my sweetheart, Paul, and I took on a project of creating awareness in our small Island community in Michigan, of the importance of environmental support. Using an electric typewriter and the manual cranking mimeograph machine at the local library, we made over 1,000 pamphlets, listing the many ways to help the Islanders become aware of how we could save the planet: recycle, reuse, population control, small volume toilets, etc. I rode my bike around the Island carefully placing our answers to world devastation in every household’s mailbox. Sometimes we used Paul’s car too.

The only reason we took on this endeavor was because we were passionate about saving the planet. There was no doubt that we would achiever our goal. And achieve it we did.

Its funny to think about this, so many decades ago, and see that the intrepid spirit never disappeared in Paul or in myself. Passion and conviction to make a difference in the world still lies within both of us. Our desire to make a difference in the world has taken different turns, as they are want to do, but those young world-savers are still in action!

My scariest mission, probably since I crossed the Atlantic Ocean in the early 90’s, is at hand. Creating this Kickstarter Project: Cultivating Spirituality in Children, with the intention to raise awareness of the importance of the spiritual lives of children, and inspiring individuals to join me in this endeavor, seems really daunting to me; so much so that has stopped me for years from fully engaging, fully and passionately getting my feet and my fingers moving in the right direction.

I Am Just Like My Clients
I struggle with many of the challenges my clients struggle with. And, like them, I have to dig down deep within to get to what’s stopping me from doing whatever it takes to create the content, the video, the rewards, and most importantly, the compellingness to go “LIVE ” with the project.

It’s not time management, or knowing those backers who would bring this project to its goal: It’s taken grueling work on my part to really ready myself to take into account those details that plaque every one of my clients to one degree or another.

One detail at a time, I began to check off my list every item that would inevitably lead to going public with the project. I discovered 5 specific items that, if not attended to, would mean my mission would be aborted. It’s not uncommon for many of us, who wish to succeed in the world, to overcome obstacles within the context of Self. I offer this list to you.

 
1) I lack nothing, therefore I need nothing:

I’ve spent much of my life living as if I lacked worth, deservingness, competence, value, resources, and loveability, just to name a few. The completion of this project – to finish the book, Cultivating Spirituality in Children, and to start the Kickstarter Project required that I’m absolutely clear that I lack nothing. This project isn’t intended to fund me; it is intended to fund the project of cultivating awareness in all grownups of the importance of children’s spirituality.

By seeing myself as lacking anything, I fear I’ll be found out as lacking.

 
2) I’m Undeserving of Support:

I learned early in life that it is imperative to be self-reliant and self-sufficient. Entrepreneurship builds capacities to do whatever it take to get the job done. However, if self-reliance is built upon a foundation of unworthiness and undeservingness, my ability to truly do my work in the world is limited.

Over the years I’ve had to get down and dirty with myself, to find peace with my past, so I can carry on in the present in my highest potential; otherwise, my ability to fulfill my purpose will be stalled.

Living from lack and unworthiness will never allow anyone to create a life that truly makes its highest contribution to life. So, letting go of the interpretations of undeserving and unworthy, had to be checked off my list.

 
3) Lie, Cheat, and Steal:

Perhaps is was a past life, or the religious upbringing in this life that had me decide that I’m a very dishonest person. I found within my ballywick of limiting interpretations this one: People will find out or decide that I am conning and manipulating people out of their money, and that I, in fact am despicable.

To check this detail off my list I had to look at the clear evidence of this belief. I see that out of fear, I have lied, manipulated, and conned people into see me as lovable, worthy and deserving. Now, I don’t have to do that anymore, because I know myself to be those things. I’ve come to honor they lives I’ve lived, the lessons that have been learned and the positive value I now bring to the world. I’ve had to let go of this old and useless way of viewing myself.

 
4) I have to Prove Myself to You:

We always make something out of nothing. What I mean is that, each of us creates, in our own minds, what is significant and meaningful, and what is not. To begin a kickstarter project, I had to sit with not only the worthiness issue, but also the idea that this will prove to the world that “I’ve Made It,” if I meet my goal. If I don’t meet my goal, well, that will mean that “I Haven’t Made It.”

The need for anyone of us to prove ourselves is connected to the fear that –  I lack something, and I may be undeserving of support –  #1 and #2 of this checkoff list.

I can feel it in my bones when I’m wanting or needing to prove something, anything. Without the need to prove anything to anyone, and just create this project because it is what is calling me, I can let go of the fears and just create from inspiration, passion and compellingness. Then its more fun and a lot less scary. I’m not trying to get something, so I have nothing to lose! The fulfillment comes with the fulfillment of participating in this project to its completion.

 

5) I’m Beholding to All Who Help Me:

Seeing myself as someone who is lacking, undeserving, a cheat, and of course, being responsible to those who have helped me, would be part of this equation that adds up to: no follow through and no fulfillment of my intention. I don’t know about you, but this is absolutely true for me.
Remembering my commitment to empowering all people to empower themselves to fulfill their human spirit, in order to ensure every child’s spirit to soar, empowers me to shift my internal paradigm from getting – which is fear-based, into my greatest capacity to extend myself in the world.

I want for my children and grandchildren to allow their spirits to soar. I want them to live in the unlimited potentiality of their being, more effortlessly than me. Cultivating Spirituality in Children – the book, and the Kickstarter Project are dedicated to this cause – for all children everywhere. Join me. For fun, check out the video. I think its quite wonderful!