As our bodies shift and change, especially as our hormones shift and change, our perspectives and perhaps identification as a sexual being also shifts and changes. Or do they?
“My Life Is Going to Hell In a Hand-basket” Aging Like a Guru – Who Me? With Dr. Rosie Kuhn Podcast #103
“Many sensations come, many thoughts or images arise,
but they are just waves of your own mind.
Nothing comes from outside your mind.
To realize pure mind in your delusion is practice.
If you try to expel the delusion it will
only persist the more.
Just say, ‘Oh, this is just delusion.’
And do not be bothered by it.”
– Shunryu Suzuki
My friend Daisy, who worked in hospice for many years, shared with me that most people make the greatest spiritual advancement in the last few weeks of their lives. I find that fascinating!
Whether we are aware of it or not, within every one of us resides Buddha nature – every Buddhist will tell you this. Every guru recognizes the truth of this statement, and with great devotion, reveals and lives into their own personal Buddha nature.
“Hating Yourself Through Aging – Who Me” Aging Like a Guru – Who Me? with Dr. Rosie Kuhn Podcast 101
Even though every single being on the planet is aging, we are all having a very unique experience of the world and our reality, while we age.
There is no doubt about it – we are all experiencing aging. And, what it is that creates the experience we are having while we age is our beliefs, our expectations, our judgments and interpretations about aging.
A curious phenomenon occurring within most human beings, is that, inside the experience of aging is a being that doesn’t feel old, and doesn’t even consider themselves to be aging until they look in the mirror. When they look in the mirror they often feel a shock or horror when they see who is looking back. “That’s not me! I’m not aging!”
Aging Like a Guru – Who Me? Will engage in the experience of being human in the process of aging. We will look at the light side and the not so light side of what it is like to be in this human experience.
Parent Like a Guru was initially created as a series of video-blogs produced in the winter of 2015. It was a shortened version of the book: Cultivating Spirituality in Children: 101 Ways to Make Every Child’s Spirit Soar. I wanted to provide a version of the book that was more accessible for busy parents, guardians and grandparents, who have little time to sit and read a book, chapter by chapter. Thus, Parent Like a Guru was born.
An unforeseen outcome of Parent Like a Guru was that the blogs were rich and empowering to the readers. So it made sense to create an e-book for those parents who wish to have the blogs accessible at a moment’s notice. And here we are!
The intention of Parent Like a Guru is to provide stories, thoughts, and experiences that inspire and empower you to let go of everything you think parenting is about. It’s letting go of how you perceive yourself as a parent, guardian, or grandparent (from here on out, collectively referred to as parents). It’s intention is to support you in letting go of the stresses and the worries, plus the hoped-for outcomes of all the blood, sweat, and tears you have brought to this role as parents. It empowers you to let go of doing it right, being perfect, and never failing your children, or yourself. It supports you to give up feeling like a failure as a parent. In essence, parenting like a guru requires letting go of all of that, and more.
Parenting Like a Guru, taken on as a spiritual practice, is not about being in serenity every minute of every day or generating a “perfect” environment within which to instil everything you want for your children. It isn’t even about meditating and silencing the mind. Parenting Like a Guru does, however, require you to empower yourself to become more mindful, such as training yourself to notice your thoughts, feelings, and body sensations, as well as what has you choose to do what you do.
Furthermore, another intention of Parent Like a Guru is to empower you to witness and become conscious of that which you really want in your relationship with your children, as well as that which you really want from your relationship with your children. Through this book, I want to empower you to be curious about you, as a human being in the role of a parent, grandparent, and guardian of all children on this planet.
By the way, I’d love for you to observe yourself without judging, without seeing mistakes, without feeling guilt and shame. Guru’s are really just ordinary people who began to laugh at their humiliating and embarrassing mistakes. Over time, they just see the humor in being human. I so send this humor and humbleness your way. It’s there if you need it!
Yet another intention of Parent Like a Guru is to remind you of that first moment when you fell in love with your child; when you were blown away by your capacity to love. Through this book, you will empower yourself to return to that love, which resides in you always, but often gets buried by the demands of daily activities, stresses, and worries.
As you read through this book, you will find yourself staying present, as best as you can, to what you believe to be your highest truth and to your highest contribution to the well-being of your children.
As parents, none of us get it right and we never get it done. What we get are thousands upon thousands of opportunities to notice when and how we do what we do. With experience and maturity, we inevitably get it that within every one of these opportunities is a gift of direct experience, which reflects the degree to which we stayed in alignment with our truth, our values, our desire, and our commitment to make our children’s spirit soar.
Like all spiritual practices, we cannot hurry the process, because, as most gurus will tell you, there is nowhere to go that is any better than this exquisite moment within which you are currently living. No other moment is better than this one for learning to parent like a guru.
Just for this moment, practice closing your eyes, and feel into your being. Notice the state of your being. Notice if you are being relaxed, anxious, angry, happy. These states of being directly influence how you do what you do, as a parent and as a person.
Ask yourself: “What is the state of being that I want to experience as I parent my children? As a grandparent, teacher, or guardian of children, you can ask the same questions, as all of us are be-ing a certain way, and being influenced by our being-ness.
A second question to ask yourself: “How do I allow my circumstances to influence how I be a parent?”
Starting here, where you are, right now, not waiting until tomorrow, allows you to notice who you are now, while discerning how you want to be as you begin to parent like a guru.