Enough is Enough

Written by Rosie on April 17, 2014. Posted in Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Creating yourself as who you want to be can be anxiety provoking; you have no idea what your fullest potential looks like; it’s all unknown. Are you curious and courageous enough to endure anxious moments of not knowing for the sake of finding out? Are you willing to be fierce in your discipline, enough to practice 100% accountability, living into integrity, and aligning your actions with your highest truth? Can you be compassionate with yourself through this exploration, allowing yourself to fumble and be humbled by this amazing process of realizing your highest self, highest truth and highest potential? Can you be courageous enough to reach out for handholds, supports and resources that allow your strengths to be experienced by you?

Dilemmas of Being

Written by Rosie on April 10, 2014. Posted in Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Knowing that you are always Oneness, always human, always choice-making, and always in your circumstances, now what? We are immersed in a multidimensional reality, and depending on which domain you focus on, there are conflicting commitments staring you down, at every turn.

Within each Domain, you have a set of beliefs, perceptions, values and priorities: In the Domain of Oneness, you are committed to experiencing union with the Divine, harmony with nature, people, and with all being. Peace, grace and serenity are what we are committed to. At the same time, we are committed to avoiding an experience of emptiness, experiencing annihilation, and the void.

Domains of Awareness

Written by Rosie on April 4, 2014. Posted in Coaching, Spiritual Matters

Through teaching and coaching, this model of awareness organically emerged, and it is foundational to a whole-being perspective of self-empowerment; and, I believe, to this adventure of spiritual immersion and self-discovery. If we do not attend to all domains of our being, we limit the full potentiality of the expression of our essential nature. Moreover, I believe we are here to be the fullest expression of our essential self. This, to me, is the destination toward which we are heading.

Through realizing how we “be” in all domains of awareness, we cultivate an awakening and responsiveness to the multidimensional nature of our being. It gives us not just a bird’s eye view but perhaps an angel’s eye view of the reality within which we are immersed. It allows us to see that our choice-making process includes so much more than meets our everyday seeing eyes.

As you incrementally engage one step at a time into this adventure of self-discovery through the process of immersion, you’ll see how each domain is operating concurrently with the others: there is no separation between the reality I see, the strategies I put into place, the qualities of my humanness, and the Universal consciousness that I am. This process distinguishes each domain, just like in a biology class where we dissect an onion into transparent layers; as it provides us with opportunities to differentiate what occurs in each Domain, and how each influences and supports wholeness for us in our own unique way.

Understanding the model, Domains of Awareness, will bring clarity to your process. It distinguishes reality, or circumstances, as they appear in our everyday living (Domain of Circumstance), from the way we choose to act, think, and be, regarding our circumstance (Domain of Self-Empowerment). It distinguishes our choice-making from the qualities of humanness (Domain of Humanity) that has us feel inadequate, unworthy, unlovable, and open, wonder, loving, creative and so much more. These are distinguished from the qualities of our being that knows without question that we are Oneness, Creation, Universal Source of All That Is (Domain of Oneness). Witnessing yourself as all of this, all at the same time, allows you to bring attention to any one domain, so as to bring clarity of intention and choice-making to whatever you are wanting.

Through cultivating awareness and practicing conscious choice-making, you will understand how you choose to choose what you choose. This knowledge, alone will empower you to discern your highest truth and the actions required to fulfill your quest. It’s up to you to choose how far down the rabbit hole you are willing to go, and the degree to which you are willing to manifest your fullest expression of your essential nature.

Stepping into the Inner Adventure

Written by Rosie on March 31, 2014. Posted in Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Unless you accept inner adventure as a way of life, discovery will not come to you. Do it for the adventure, self-discovery is born of direct experience. (Nisagardatta, I Am That. p. 434P).

The reality of the world we live in today requires that we prepare ourselves for the adventures that come to us throughout our lifetimes. Escalating personal, social, environmental and world crisis push against our doors of denial and ignorance to bring forth true, firsthand experiences of what it is like to be you, in human form. The ways of the past are gone! You are invited to discover the real you within the reality you’ve been living, from this moment forward.

Many spiritual practices with the majority of Religious and Spiritual Traditions, take us away from ourselves as the source of wisdom and truth. Meditation, prayer of supplication, and practices that take you into ecstatic places, have you look outside yourself for truth. You are invited to engage in a myriad of practice that promise to give you the answer, will change your energy patterns, your brainwaves, your chakras and provide instant transformation with no effort.

“Listen to ME! Buy What I Have to Offer! My Way is the Way!” People spend billions of dollars on all the “self-help” tools, but most of them don’t work, because people don’t want to do the real work, which requires the stopping of what doesn’t work, and being in direct relationship with themselves.

Heading to India to find that Guru you believe will bring you to fulfillment and enlightenment, well, it won’t. A truthful Guru will tell you they can’t, and you’ll feel disappointed, frustrated perhaps angered, which in itself tells you you’ve got some work to do on yourself. You’ve heard it a thousand times from a thousand sources; you won’t find it outside yourself. You just won’t!

Spiritual Immersion: Taking the Plunge

Written by Rosie on March 28, 2014. Posted in Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Introduction

Spiritual Immersion is a process of revealing the ever deeper and richer layers of our spirit-selves. This Spirit-Self resides within our human form and can only be fully known through direct, personal experience. Only through this direct experience can you explore, experiment and discover your truth and live that truth.

I believe we have come onto this planet to experience the fulfillment of our human spirit. We can only do this through the self-empowering, direct experience of our humanness. The intention of this book is to inspire you to choose consciously to immerse yourself – just as an experiment, into an experiment – an investigation, if you will, into self-discovery; then choose to live consciously according to the evidence of your investigation.

The Pragmatics of Limitless Being

The more you understand how you operate inside the reality of you, the more empowered you are to choose to act in alignment with what you want. Less sabotage, less stuckness, more fulfillment, freedom and fun. Abraham-Hicks, Notes from the Universe, The Secret and many other self-directed practice, teach: Change your thoughts and you will create the desirable outcome you want. It’s a very elegant principle, but the practice takes commitment and discipline to actually immerse oneself into the direct experience of this.

No one knows how long it will take to realize the potential of this practice. Its takes as long as it takes. Without taking the plunge, though, you can most likely kiss goodbye that which you truly desire. A practice of spiritual immersion, in my experience, is the most pragmatic training you will ever discover. It brings to the foundations of your being and your doing. This allows you to choose differently – only in service to what you want – not what you don’t want.

What I’ve Learned, Thus far, on My Spiritual Journey

Written by Rosie on December 6, 2013. Posted in Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Transformation is not a one stop shop. There’s so many ways to transform and so many things to learn along the path. Here’s what I’ve learned to be true, at least for myself over the past few years:

1. There is only one source of currency / income. It may appear to come from your job, a personal or bank loan, inheritance or from your credit cards; but without the Universal Source of all that is, the currency would not be flowing from those sources.

If the currency you are needing is not forthcoming in the form you think is required, it’s because you don’t need it. What you may be needing is an opportunity to receive from the bounty of lessons that are continually being bestowed upon you. It’s a clever disguise for getting creative and curious about what you are doing and who you are being in your life. It’s also an opportunity to list some of the countless ways currency is flowing in your life, in this moment.

2. There is only one source of Love. It may appear to come, or not come, from parents, children, partners, community, but without the Universal Source of all that is, Love would not be flowing through these sources.

If the love you are needing is not forthcoming in the form you think is required, it’s because you don’t need it. What you may be needing is an opportunity to receive from the bounty of lessons that are continually being bestowed upon you. It’s a clever disguise for getting creative and curious about what you are doing and who you are being in your life. It’s also an opportunity to list some of the countless ways you are being loved, in this moment.

5 Easy Steps to Shift from Self-Ignoring to Self-Love

Written by Rosie on November 29, 2013. Posted in Coaching, Humaness, Spiritual Matters

I tell you, truthfully, that if all of us self-help enthusiasts would put into practice all the beautiful, inspirational advice we see on Twitter, in books and blogs, we’d put therapists, psychologist, and a lot of medical doctors out of business. I believe it’s possible that we are beginning to outsmart most mental health professionals. And as we do that, our physical well-being increase and dis-ease decreases. The dilemma is that as much as we want to have sweeter and easier lives, we are afraid of change. And, as much as we know, we aren’t using our intelligence much at all. So we hire others who support us in these struggles and challenges. This is a good thing!

I have no doubt that all of us will get tired of the fear-based platform of our choosing to choose what we choose. Sooner or later each of us will take those incrementally small steps towards the life we say we want.

So, in service to this one small, incremental step towards fulfillment of our human spirit, I began practicing a very simple exercise. Maybe you’ll try it too. And, yes. It is easy. Well, most of it!

Generating Generosity of Spirit with 2 Small Practices and 4 Suggestions

Written by Rosie on November 20, 2013. Posted in Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Isn’t it great – the holiday season is here again. AHHHHHHHHHHH!!

I actually started writing this piece a year ago but found I hadn’t enough experience with my subject to write about it. So, these past twelve months, I’ve been playing with the experience of generosity. What it is; what it feels like in my body; what allows me to act generously or withhold it. It’s been a fun exercise and the outcome is I’m far more generous than I ever imagined. Who would have guessed that being generous could create such an awakening to some new sensations or qualities of being me? I’m not a philanthropist by any means, but perhaps I am – not with money but with my heart.

This muscle called generosity has always been with me. It just hasn’t had a whole lot of intentional exercise. With this new workout comes an entirely new level of kindness and sharing that goes beyond my history.

What are Your Four Truths You Live By?

Written by Rosie on October 5, 2013. Posted in Humaness, Spiritual Matters

Last night, my son Zach and I watched a documentary titled Samsara. It’s a beautiful film with no voices to explain the images depicting the cycle of life, death and rebirth – Samsara.

Within this film, images of nature are woven together with images of people, cities, industry and many elements of a societies, religions and cultures. Some of the images are painful to witness, but they do portray the aspects of samsara that are part and parcel to the life cycle and the world we live in today. These have to do with what would be considered animal cruelty, but for the purpose of feeding the masses, it is what it is.

My response to these images was to ask myself some questions: Should I stop eating meat? Can my behavior effect a change in the practices necessary to feed the people of another country? What is my role here as a conscious being? Do I retain the images in my mind, so as to experience guilt for the way that it is?

During the night, as I lay awake, I found myself intentionally bringing to mind the images in the movie that were most disturbing. My thinking was that by keeping the images of those suffering in the forefront of my mind, I’d lesson their suffering somehow; I’d also be punishing myself for my ignorance and wastefulness – ways that I contribute to the problem. Choosing this particular strategy meant that I wouldn’t go back to ignoring, wasting and wanting needless things. But, from a position of higher wisdom, this doesn’t seem to do anything positive; it only maintains a worn out strategy within a worn out paradigm. How does the shift take place? How do I contribute to a paradigm shifts?

Many years ago, a client of mine shared that she intentionally carried the suffering of women in India; that she didn’t have a right to enjoy a happy life when others live a life of poverty, hunger and pain. I asked her: Do you think those women in India will find value in you suffering? Do you think that if they were in your shoes that they would intentionally take on the suffering of others? How does your suffering truly serve them and the world? My clients wasn’t ready for the possibility that her choices may be of a self-serving nature. She didn’t return for a second session.

This client’s commitment to healing the suffering of others, and my questions regarding the value of that specific way of making a difference in the world, has stayed with me. My own coaching isn’t lost on me.

Here’s what I believe to be true:
1) All beings who are suffering (this means ALL of us) do not ask others to suffer for their sake. There’s no point in that.
2) Utilizing Guilt as a strategy, in service to somehow mitigating suffering in others or myself – well that just doesn’t work!
3) If these suffering beings know that my suffering will not effect their suffering than what I need to do is be present to what is, without causing more suffering for myself or for others.
4) By ending the suffering within myself I end the suffering within all beings.

Now the Work Begins: Ending the Suffering Within Myself
I have no doubt that millions of us are in the midst of this dilemma – the dilemma being: Do I ignore, deny and distract myself from all the horrors in the world, which is a way to end suffering within myself; or do I cultivate a larger perspective, one that engages my highest truth and my highest knowing. It also require that I do not close my eyes to the horrors, nor do I unnecessarily bring them to consciousness; I accept that they exist within this current consensus reality, without denial or ignorance. As most of you know, the latter strategy is the one I’ve been practicing, though it is a most challenging one.

Accepting the Is-ness of this reality of this moment, I practice returning to my mantra: I am the eternal presence of Divine Grace. Every aspect of reality is the eternal presence of Diving Grace. Underlying the suffering is the eternal presence of Divine Grace. This also is the Is-ness fo the reality of this moment.

As I repeat these words slowly, intentionally experiencing the truth within these words, there is a shift. In this this moment, compassion arises for all beings who are suffering. This feels like a step in the right direction.
In service to cultivating consciousness, the process of discerning truth from non-truth is one that is essential. It is a big leap for any of us to truly decide what is our truth and to commit living in alignment with this truth. One step at a time is what is required. I’m ongoingly challenged to take these steps, however I couldn’t know myself in my full potentiality if I were to do anything else.

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Who is Dr. Rosie? Dr. Rosie Kuhn is a preeminent thought leader in the field of Transformational Coaching and Leadership Development. She is available for Speaking Engagements, Coaching Sessions for Individuals, Organizations and Executives, as well as Trainings. Her books can be found at Amazon.com. And, be sure to check out many of her other blogs as www.theparadigmshifts.com.

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And, as always I’m here to empower you into your fullest expression of your essential self. A coaching session is just a phone call away. 360-376-4323.
Blessings,
Rosie

God is My Scapegoat

Written by Rosie on May 2, 2013. Posted in Humaness, Spiritual Matters

“If God is such a loving God, how can he allow war, poverty and disease?”

I hear this question a lot, and it inspired me to sit and write down my perspective, since I, too, wonder why things are the way they are, especially for me, on a personal level.

Bad things happen to all of us, personally, professionally, to our communities, countries and on a global scale. Who’s responsible for it all? Who’s to blame? Is the right response to be angry, hateful and shaming? Is the right response to get even – you know, an eye for an eye? Who do we point our finger at? Well, more often than not, we point the finger at God as the perpetrator of our challenges. He’s the one that’s responsible for the way it all is, isn’t he?

I believe many of us do use God as a scapegoat. A scapegoat is someone or something upon which we project our worst qualities. That way, we can remain in denial that they exist within us. Interestingly, we also scapegoat others with positive qualities that, again, we feel we need to deny exist with us (More about that in my next blog.). Through this amazingly sophisticated practice of denial we remain unconscious of our individual contributions to those aspects of life that only seem to be out of our control: both the aspects we desire as well as the undesirable.

When we experience a violation, where something is done to us, or is taken away from us – such as power and control, anger and rage arises. If we explore the quality of experience underlying rage and anger, we experience powerlessness and helplessness. Such an experience is solely a consequence of being human. In owning and experiencing powerlessness to the fullest, something inexplicable happens: compassion arises for us and our nemesis. (Honestly, it’s far easier to just make God the scapegoat for all our woes.) But, I’m getting ahead of myself.

If I don’t own my humanness (the experiencing powerlessness and helplessness) then I cannot empower myself to explore and discover ways in which I have perhaps contributed bad things happening. In so doing I don’t get to know myself and all the ways I’ve learned to be me. I can deny myself this process, in service to my egoic stance that I am a victim, I am powerless, and I deserve retribution. However, by doing so, I also deny myself the opportunity to witness my own process; how I’ve been perceiving the world;, how I make choices that have me personally contributing to good things happening, and to bad things happening, including war, poverty and disease, to be more specific.

Sadly, most of us are addicted to being right, so much so that we deny, or distract ourselves from the truth when we are wrong. The consequence of our righteousness is staring us in the face. The majority of our problems in the world stem from the fact that we can’t admit when we are wrong. Pointing the finger towards anyone else and blaming them for the way things are, leaves us righteous, yet at the same time, we become powerless to make a difference, for ourselves and for the world.

I believe that it isn’t God’s job to stop bad things from happening on Earth. I believe it is our job – as humans, to figure out how each of us contributes to the pain, suffering and grief that we experience, that we witness, and that we perpetuate in every arena in our lives.
We can’t insist that God be “all loving” and not also insist that we ourselves practice accountability for acts that are unloving and unkind to ourselves and others.

We can’t insist that God create peace and not also insist that we ourselves practice accountability for inflicting disharmony and pain, through our thoughts, words and actions upon ourselves and others.
We can’t insist that God provide, share and be generous and not also insist that we become present to our own withholding, and lack of generosity of spirit, again, to ourselves and others.

I have no doubt that it isn’t God who abandons or betrays us; or who brings about war, poverty and disease in the world. Yet, when I’m angry and hateful, God has often been the go-to-guy as a scapegoat. And, when I look to myself for the creation of my woes, I’m often surprised to discover aspects of myself that I didn’t know existed. Nothing bad, just ways of being that were not contributing to peace, prosperity and well-being for myself or others.

Look at it this way: As adults, we have to allow our children mistakes and suffer natural consequences, so they learn to make smart choices. If we don’t let them figure things out for themselves, and we intervene on their behalf, they will keep making bad choices and expect to get bailed out. They may act out, throw tantrums and create havoc. However, if given a safe space to work things out; slowly but surely they will come to realize a better solution to their situation. They will cultivate intelligence and accountability. They will drop their emotionalism, their pride, ignorance, and their desire to be right, in service to a more fulfilling way to be in the world. I think this is what God has in mind when he lets us be with war, disease and poverty. He’s respecting our capacity to grow ourselves up and figure it out for ourselves. I have no doubt that the human race is a lot smarter than it appears to be. We are just incredibly stubborn about not wanting to be wrong.

Many non-traditional, non-Western methods of working with violence, poverty and disease focus on personal and spiritual issues that have gone unnoticed, ignored, and denied. The journey through illness, for example, has brought many individuals to deep personal healing. They express deep gratitude for being given such an opportunity to grow and discover a greater sense of self. Many say they wouldn’t have chosen to do any self-reflective and/or self-healing work if it hadn’t been for their disease. They stopped blaming God and took responsibility for their illness and began to think, feel, and act in alignment with a higher wisdom, which inevitably brought them to personal peace. The positive consequence of this practice, for many, is that their disease is healed.

Unresolved spiritual issues of adults are carried by children of the next generation. They are carried by pets, and most likely employees, co-workers, by our communities, countries and, yes, the planet Earth. Unmanifested dis-ease becomes manifested in ways that we can’t even imagine. Too many of us want to remain ignorant of the energetic and vibrational nature of our emotional selves, but the fact of the matter is that this ignorance is killing us, our children, and our planet.

This is not a popular position. Many see this as a way to blame, shame, and guilt people for what appears to be out of their control. My intention, however, is to remove the shame, blame, and guilt from all of us and from God, so we can truly grasp the reality of a reality far beyond cause and effect, good and bad, right and wrong. By allowing us to perhaps see the ways that each person contributes to peace and war, to love and hate, and to abundance and poverty, we truly become responsible for the conditions of our personal lives and how we affect the lives of those around us.

This perspective requires us to have intelligent conversations with ourselves, asking the tough questions. For example: How do I contribute to peace in my life? How do I contribute to the peace of my children and my family? Now, don’t do anything else but be mindful throughout your day, and notice what thoughts and actions contribute to peace and which one’s don’t. Over time, you’ll come to perhaps choose to be more peace-full, or you might just continue to contribute to a non-peace-full life and reality. It’s really all up to you!

In essence, by scapegoating God for the bad things that happen, we’ll never learn to empower ourselves to greater maturity, wisdom, and intelligence. And, by scapegoating God for the good things that happen, we cannot own our capacity to create beauty, wonder and love – realizing our fullest potential to live in our essential nature. For now, trust me when I say that in truth, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by getting curious about who you are and what is really true for you. There’s nothing more to do.

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And, as always I’m here to empower you into your fullest expression of your essential self. A coaching session is just a phone call away. 360-376-4323.

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